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Ladies,
if you want to have a successful dating life, certain phrases
should never come out of your glossy lips. Here they are:
1. WHEN WILL I SEE YOU AGAIN? You’ll see him when you see him.
If he wants to see you again, he’ll call. If not, next. You
don’t have time for anyone that doesn’t have time for you.
2. WHY DIDN’T YOU CALL? There’s only one answer to this
question: Because he didn’t want to!!! What you’re really
asking is, “Why didn’t you want to call me?” Who knows!!
There could be a lot of reasons, but you shouldn’t be sitting
around wondering why. You should be out dating lots of different
guys and not worrying about ONE guy. Don’t be so quick to put
all your eggs into one basket, because if they break, it’s a big
mess!
3. WHERE WERE YOU? If he wanted you to know where he was, he’d
tell you. What you’re really asking is, “Where you with
another female that you like better than me?” Your insecurity is
showing, my dear. If anything, he should be wondering where you
were.
4. I LOVE YOU (FIRST) - You’re saying it in the hopes that
he’ll say it back, but what if he doesn’t? You’ll be
devastated and probably feel foolish. Saying “I love you” is
not going to speed things up if he’s not ready to say it back.
So just cool it, and let him be the first to say it when he’s
ready.
5. DID YOU SLEEP WITH HER? As long as he’s not sleeping with her
now, who cares? The past is gone. Don’t torture yourself (and
him) with these thoughts. In this case, ignorance really is bliss.
6. I’M PREGNANT. In 2005, with all the birth control choices
available, there is no excuse for becoming pregnant, unless you
want to be. You should be using something and he should use a
condom, every time.
7. WHERE IS THIS GOING? Nowhere fast if that’s your attitude.
Guys want someone fun and easy to be with, not someone that’s
constantly worrying about the future. His actions or non-actions
will tell you where it’s going. If it’s going somewhere,
you’ll know it. If it’s not, you’ll know it too.
8. WE NEED TO TALK. This is the equivalent of, “Go to the
principal’s office”. Guys know it’s not going to be a fun
conversation, so they’re already on the defense. If you need to
discuss something, just casually bring it up when the both of you
are relaxed. Don’t try to talk to him when he’s tired,
stressed or trying to watch tv!
9. I HATE YOU! Even if you do, it’s totally uncalled for and
un-lady like. If there’s an issue, be mature enough to discuss
it when you’re calm. If he’s breaking up with you, reacting
with anger may make you feel better temporarily, but it’s best
to remain calm and act unfazed. He’ll wonder why you’re so
cool about it and that may make him re-think his decision. Always
be pleasant during a break up. Do you want to be known as the girl
that goes psycho if someone breaks up with her?? I didn’t think
so.
10. I DON’T TRUST YOU. What you’re actually saying is, “You
need to step up your game, because I can see you’re up to
something.” If he is up to something, he’ll just become even
sneakier. Better to think smart and act dumb-it’ll be easier to
get the evidence you need to confirm your suspicions.
Article by Lucia Demaci. Lucia is a dating and relationship
expert, columnist, lecturer and host of the TV Show "The Art
of Love".
With over 20 years experience on the relationship market, Lucia
has dated men of all nationalities in six cities, four countries
and two continents. Her practical know-how makes her the perfect
candidate to dispense relationship advice – after all, in almost
every dating dilemma she has been there, done that and lived to
tell about it.
For more articles or to ask Lucia a question, go to: http://www.theartoflove.net
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